Today is Valentine’s Day, love hearts and roses are everywhere and those with a significant other are treated to a day of over the top affection and treats. If you’re single witnessing loved up couples can be a painful reminder of just how alone you are.
Valentine’s Day is supposed to be a day for singletons, originally it was the day that people would declare their love to the person they had been admiring from afar. For singletons it should be a day of surprise and wonder to any secret admirers. If you’re in a relationship you should be romantic and telling your other half you love them every day, you shouldn’t need Valentine’s Day for that.
I am alone this Valentine’s Day, but I’m not lonely. I’m very content in my own company, I always have been. That’s not to say that I don’t get lonely from time to time but I don’t seek the affection of another to contribute to my overall happiness which means that the 14th February passes me by just like any other day.
I often describe myself as an introverted extrovert. I’m not shy or and retiring, I’m very assertive when I want to be and full of confidence, but I enjoy exercising my right to be reserved. My love of being alone is something I’ve learnt over the years and now something I value highly. I traveled to the other side of the world alone, I’ve taken myself off to the cinema alone. I wanted to eat in a fancy restaurant when I was on holiday alone… so I did. By not using being alone as an excuse, I’ve experience the things I want to.
I feel stronger and more confident for daring to just go at things on my own. You never know what is going to happen to do you from one day to the next, who will come and go from your life or what situations you’ll find yourself in. The only constant is you. I feel like I could take on the world, should a zombie apocalypse (or Valentine’s Day) hit I know I’d be able to get myself through it!